Whether it’s after making love, before going to sleep, or first thing in the morning, everybody loves to spoon … well, at least all you ladies out there - you love to spoon, right? And who doesn’t like the idea of using a few tantric sex techniques to improve quality and longevity between the sheets.
Below are a couple variations on spooning inspired by tantric traditions that involve getting in tune with your breath, then tuning your own breath in with your lover’s. These exercises are great for all sorts of things from calming down and reconnecting after a fight to amping up the anticipation factor before some rowdy tantric love-making.
The Basics
Assume the classic spooning position on a cushy surface and just breathe normally. Take a moment to feel the contact your skin makes with your lover’s. Feel your breath moving through your body in a natural rhythm.
Once you have found the rhythm of your own breath, try to match it to your lover’s, such that your exhales and inhales are timed to one another’s. Do not try to force your partner’s breath to match yours. Rather, gently bring your breath into rhythm with your lover’s, as he or she does the same. Trust each other to find the sweet spot.
Once your breathing is in sync, take five deep breaths this way. Feel every inch of contact your body makes with your lover’s and feel how your shared breathing affects the contact you have.
